Animals play an integral role in many people’s lives. Not surprisingly, navigating relationships when pets are involved has become a significant aspect of dating. Just ask Tori Spelling.
According to People magazine, estranged husband Dean McDermott pointed to Tori’s pet pig sleeping in their bed, a chicken living in the bathroom, and multiple dogs in their home as a contributing factor in their marriage’s ultimate demise.
As outlandish as his claims may sound, McDermott’s statements underscore the importance of partners being on the same page when it comes to pets; having divergent views can directly influence the harmony in a relationship. With this in mind, if you have a pet or are considering dating someone who does, here are a few issues to consider.
Don’t assume everyone’s a pet lover.
Incomprehensible or painful as it may be to imagine a person who doesn’t love pets or a particular animal, it’s part of life that not everyone will share the same enthusiasm for pets as you do. Avoiding the assumption that everyone loves animals can help you navigate relationships more effectively.
People tend to have varying comfort levels and experiences with animals. Some may also have allergies. Therefore, it’s best to approach these differences with respect and understanding.
Discuss pets with a partner.
Being mindful of personal boundaries when dating with pets is key. While a pet may be a member of the family for some, it’s not the case for everyone. Gauging your and your partner’s comfort level before incorporating pets into shared spaces or activities can prevent issues from arising.
If you have a pet or want one in the future, discussing your stance on pets early on can save everyone time and trouble. When you’re honest about your intentions regarding pets, you will better understand each other’s commitments and whether pets will fit into your respective lifestyles.
Before making any decisions regarding pets, addressing potential concerns, such as the expense of caring for pets, fear or dislike of a specific type of animal, allergies, or any other reservations, can help to establish a transparent and considerate atmosphere. By engaging in clear communication from the start, you can build a solid foundation for your relationship so that the needs of humans and pets are acknowledged.
The idea is that as your relationship progresses, everyone, including your pets, should feel at ease. Continually sharing your thoughts on pets demonstrates a willingness to understand and respect each other’s personal boundaries, keeping the tone of your dating environment positive and inclusive.
Pet-friendly dates.
Pet people like to share their love for their pets, especially with other pet lovers or people they love or think they may love one day. Dates involving pets can help pet owners test the waters and see how everyone gets along.
Selecting pet-friendly venues for dates is a fun way to create a comfortable environment for love interests and furry companions. Venues can include pet-friendly restaurants and parks or activities catering to pets’ well-being, such as cat cafés.
Whether it’s a casual stroll in a dog-friendly park or a cozy dinner at a pet-friendly restaurant, the venue you pick can affect the dynamics of a date. One caveat: Keep pet comfort and safety in mind when deciding where to go.
Don’t neglect your date because your pet is present.
It can be a delicate balance to pay attention to your date and pets at the same time, but the quality of your date will depend on it. While pets are cherished family members, it’s important not to let their presence overshadow the connection you have with your human partner.
To that end, find opportunities to engage with your date without neglecting pets’ needs. This might involve planning activities involving both humans and pets so everyone feels valued and included. Striking this balance demonstrates a thoughtful approach to all kinds of relationships.
Set clear boundaries for pet involvement during dates, too. This will help to avoid potential conflicts or feeling uncomfortable. While incorporating pets into shared activities can be enjoyable, it’s also important that their presence aligns with the context of the date.
Setting expectations and limits on pet involvement (i.e., the pet isn’t always present) will help foster a positive atmosphere while also preventing unintended disruptions or a pet becoming an unwanted intruder. No one likes a third wheel, no matter how cute they are.
Handle pet-related issues promptly.
Address pet-related issues, especially allergies, early. Discussing specific triggers and the potential severity of them can give you time to find practical solutions. This may involve establishing pet-free zones within the home, using air purifiers, or exploring hypoallergenic pets.
Finding common ground and solutions together again demonstrates a willingness to accommodate each other’s needs and wants. It’s also an indicator of whether your relationship will be able to endure despite potential pet-related challenges.
Handling animals’ behavioral issues is yet another aspect of dating with pets that may require extra attention. Discussing training and behavior expectations openly can lay the groundwork for a harmonious co-existence between you, your partner, your respective pets, or pets you may adopt together.
In cases where behavioral issues persist, consider seeking support from a certified animal behaviorist or trainer. Taking this extra step demonstrates your commitment to the well-being of your relationship and the pets involved in it.
Final thoughts …
Understanding the dos and don’ts for creating a “pawsitive” partnership can help you and your partner to remain respectful of each other and each other’s pets and embrace wholeheartedly the responsibilities and joys that come with having animals. This includes any animals you may decide to welcome into the relationship as a couple.
By following these suggestions, you can enhance your dating experiences and build lasting connections that include all family members — human and furry.